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Silver and Gold

When I was a young kid – maybe five or six – my mom would sing a silly little song whenever I talked about the inevitable playground rivalries that come with friendships in early childhood. It went like this:

“Make new friends

But keep the old

One is silver and

The other’s gold…”

I don’t know where that comes from but she was fond of it. I was reminded of that last weekend when I had a full slate of activities with new friends and old.

On Friday night I walked to Black Friar just down the street from the apartment and met a couple of women who are co-workers of mine and their dates. Each of the guys were good people and I had a fine time drinking beers and having dinner with them. The weather was “Northern California Nice” that evening and it was just one of those times when staying in would have been a sad and lonely crime. Being able to meet up with no planning whatsoever was exactly the sort of thing that I was hoping for when I moved to Uptown last fall.

Saturday morning I drove to the DFW airport and picked up my best friend of 21 years at E14. Mike had never been to Dallas for any reason other than business and we had set last weekend for his visit some time earlier this year. As guys commonly do, we entirely lacked any plan other than 1) Mike comes to Dallas for a couple of days and 2) we figure it out from there.

So after dropping his stuff off at the apartment we went to Harry’s and got a little lunch (saving dessert for later) and then found our way on foot to the Katy Trail. We walked almost the whole length of the trail, from Knox-Henderson down to within site of the American Airlines Center and back. Mike’s visit was a great excuse to do that – I had not yet gotten to it even though I’ve been in Uptown since October of last year. The trail is pretty nice I think – arguably on the short side but shady in places and great for pedestrians. When we got back to the top of the trail we returned to Harry’s for custard. Mike was appropriately impressed.

Before getting back in the car I hooked Mike into the Apple Store long enough to get him to hold a MacBook Air and check out the new iPods and iPhone. Like I once was, Mike has been a do-it-yourself PC guy forever. He got a big chuckle out me switching to to a Mac last year. But I can tell that the BS you have to go through dealing with Windows at times is wearing on him a little. When we were in the apartment later checking email and stuff I used my MacBook and let him use my work PC for terminal services back into his machines in Atlanta. Our user experiences were…different. My MacBook, of course, connected to the Internet just about instantly when I opened it up. The Dell? Well, somewhere between 30 and 60 seconds after we jarred it awake from standby it finally became useful.

We both sat there wondering why the hell it’s so hard for Microsoft to make that better. Come on guys! My Dell is a dual core machine with 2GB of RAM and a brand new Windows installation. What’s the excuse? The thing almost takes longer to get an IP address when you switch networks than it takes my MacBook to cold boot. I know Microsoft’s engineering problems have had much broader scope due to the open OEM model but jeez – it’s been more than 25 years now since that got started – sure seems like they’d have a better recipe at this point. I’m betting that Microsoft is making their own hardware within the next few years, but I made and lost that bet a few years ago too. We’ll see.

Anyway, after we got rested up we went out to Chuy’s. I had intended to get Mike some good TexMex (it’s a lot better here in Dallas than Atlanta for sure) but honestly Chuy’s disappointed. My chimichanga was overdone. Mike liked his well enough though, and I guess that’s what counted.

Lalibela and the ScatMat

A few weeks back I met the Inmans over at yeswehavenobananas. We’ve gotten to do a thing or two together since and last night we met up with a few other Uptown-area folks at Lalibela. No, we did not fly to its namesake Ethiopian city of ancient rock hewn churches. We just drove over to Forest Lane and ate as though we had.

If you haven’t tried Ethiopian food before you are missing out. It’s reminiscent of Mediterranean or Middle Eastern cuisine in some ways, but it’s definitely got its own flavor and style. Lots of good spices and some very brightly colored dishes. Just get used to the fact that you don’t eat with utensils. You scoop up your food with lots of spongy flat bread. And don’t think Lalibela will provide some kind of white table cloth version of Ethiopian dining all scrubbed up to the point you can’t tell it from any place else. You won’t. Chances are you will find yourself all alone except for a handful of real live Ethiopians that come there to feel at home.

With all of that as a back drop we had some hilarious dinner conversation. A couple that is friends with Matt & Erin came along with one of their college roommates. They had their fair share of funny stories. Did you know that there was such a thing called a ScatMat which uses very powerful static electric shocks to train pets not to sit on sofas? Do you know what happens when your unwary friends sit on the ScatMat? Can you guess what might happen when you put the ScatMat in your room mate’s bed before he stumbles home drunk? The Ethiopians might have been confused as to why the Americans were laughing so hard, but they didn’t seem to mind too much.

After that we drove over to Wild About Harry’s where I finally got some of Mr. Conley’s very fine custard along with everyone else. I had the coconut with hot fudge on top. Awesome.

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Nice People, No Bananas

Tonight I went to a social gathering here at my apartment building. It was put on by the same social committee that organized the cooking class I wrote about here. This time the theme was “new residents”, and I joined in because I consider myself one. I might have signed my lease in October, but until the new year this place was practically a hotel room for me. I was hardly ever here.

I’m really glad that I went. I met Melissa, one of the other new residents in this building, and also Matt & Erin, a couple that are part of the social committee. We had a great conversation ranging from the careers we have and places we’ve lived to the places we’ve traveled and would like to get to one day. Melissa has a pretty interesting sounding job in the securities industry, Matt & Erin are taking turns working and going to graduate school.

After Melissa had to go our conversation ranged to activities here in Uptown, spicy Mexican food and blogging. It turns out that Erin has a blog also – it was cool to meet another Uptown blogger! You can find her here at “Yes we have no bananas”.

Books – The Purpose

Once inside Booked Up (below) the browsing began. If you really want to get a feel for just how much is there you’ll have to go see it yourself. Still, I took a few notes that can give you a glimpse. One of the things that made the biggest impression on me as I scanned some of the more rare books was the incredible diversity of human experience, even just among westerners writing in English. Another was a humbling sense of the smallness of any one life on the tapestry of time.

Want to experience romance and adventure from the 19th century reader’s perspective? How would “A Slave of the Saracen” suit you? A fictional commentary on the family life of the day? How about giving “The Autocrat of the Breakfast Table” a read? Travel? Try “Seeing Europe by Automobile”, which was clearly written to differentiate the experience from rail or horse. Politics? Have the only copy of “Inquiry into the Nature of Certain 19th Century Pamphlets” I’ve ever seen. Science? “Soviet Genetics and World Science.” Philosophy? “The Life of Voltaire.” Nature? “The Life of the Salmon.” Weather? “The Climate of Indiana.” Religion and morality? Have a tiny little book admonishing against fornication written entirely in Latin but published some time in the 19th century?

Listing all that was no different than counting the stars in a tiny patch of sky and giving up. It was endless.

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One of the books I finally decided that I would buy was “Nonsenseorship”, a 1922 commentary on American life in the era of prohibition and the moralism of that day. In the midst of today’s absurd rancor over politically correct speech and increasingly coercive regulations regarding whether we smoke, how we drink and now even what we’re eating, I was instantly taken by this passage from the foreword:

“From England, through the eyes of Frank Swinnerton, we glimpse ourselves as others see us, and rather pathetically. In days gone by, lured by reports of America’s lawless free-and-easiness, Swinnerton says he craved to visit us. But no more. The wish is dead. We have become hopelessly moral and uninviting. “I see that I shall after all have to live quietly in England with my pipe and my abstemious bottle of beer. And yet I should like to visit America, for it has suddenly become in my imagining an enormous country of ‘Don’t!’ and I want to know what it is like to have ‘Don’t!’ said to me by somebody who is not a woman.”

I think I’m really going to enjoy reading it.

On a more serious note, there was a book from 1908 that had an introduction so chilling that I could not help but write down an excerpt since I wasn’t going to pay the $200 to buy it. It was from “Kafir Socialism”, Kafir being the derogatory term for black Africans used by the Boers and others in the past. It was a political commentary on the direction of world politics in general and “solving the native question” in particular:

“In the case of races and classes, just as in the case of individuals, those that are the most efficient in their adaptation to environment, and not those that simply give expression to the loftiest sentiment, will survive and dominate all rivals; while the weak and inefficient will go to the wall.”

Mind you, this wasn’t some ratty, poorly written pamphlet run off the alleyway presses of the lunatic fringe. It was a nicely bound hard cover book with acclamations inside. In retrospect, how can you read that and be surprised that the horrors of the First World War were just around the corner, and those of the Russian revolution and the Holocaust not far behind?

But for every book on topics so grave there were at least as many others that were much less weighty. After a couple of hours of browsing Eric and Jill came back with quite a load. Eric got some things for his art studies and Jill found a reprint of what is purported to be the very first cook book ever published – from the 1400′s I think.

After paying up we were on our way back to the Metroplex, sure that we would return some time.

Booked Up – The Destination

After we got done with the drive (details below) we rolled into the center of Archer City, took a left and arrived at our destination in little more than a block. Archer City is a tiny town. I think the”welcome to” sign set the population at 1,851 but I wonder just how much of Archer County that includes. As you can see here, crossing the main drag posed about as much risk to life and limb as brushing your teeth. To really appreciate a book store like Booked Up you have to learn at least a little about Larry McMurtry.

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McMurtry is a prolific author that many people in my generation and younger have probably not heard much about. A few of his more famous works resulted in feature films and mini-series like Terms of Endearment, The Last Picture Show and Lonesome Dove among others. McMurtry grew up in Archer City and after achieving fame and fortune returned for a time to open Booked Up. You get the idea from reading the signs posted about that he has become mostly an absentee landlord in recent years, spending significantly less time there than he once did. Still, the place has his imprint all over it. There are framed items from friends and family lying about, type-up and hand-annotated signs and notes here and there and even some CDs for sale by his son James. It’s the same feeling you get visiting the home of a grandparent. There’s a little bit of their lives and those of their loved ones scattered all over the place.

Some of the more remarkable things about Booked Up? First, it dominates the town. There are four buildings in all, and though a couple look relatively small from outside that is deceiving. They are quite large inside and the inventory is enormous. Second, the place is run on the honor system – only building number one is staffed. If you find something you like in the other three you walk it down to number one and pay there. Third, the antiquity and diversity of the books is something else. In the older collections you routinely see books on virtually every topic printed in the mid to early 1800s. Finally, it’s just plain overwhelming. The breadth of what you behold is sharply enhanced by McMurtry’s admittedly “whimsical” way of organizing the titles.

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That whimsy is particularly evident in the lobby of building one where the really rare and signed copies are kept. I spent two hours in there crawling over every shelf. After about 30 minutes of browsing it hits you – you could spend an entire lifetime from dawn to dusk reading and scarcely make a dent in the place. In fact, you could spend days and days wandering the buildings and noting carefully what you found before you even got a solid feel for the inventory.

Whether it’s the product of genius, madness or detachment, McMurtry has really hit on something here. By not indexing, organizing or computerizing his collection in any way you are forced to take in the vastness of it all. You browse across things you would never set out to find, see things you would never guess existed, and learn things you would be lessened for not knowing.

Barnes & Noble it ain’t.

Texas Excursion – The Drive

Although I bought it back in October when I moved in to the apartment, Saturday was the first time I got to take my new Acura TL-S out on the open road. I went on a short road trip with some friends. What a rush. There was plenty of nowhere between Fort Worth and Archer City, and I took every advantage.

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At about 9:00 am I picked up Jill and Eric at their place in Forth Worth, which was on the way from Dallas. Jill is one of my colleagues at work and her husband Eric is an artist – more on that another time. An Archer City trip was their idea, something that they had suggested at one of Eric’s exhibitions last fall. There is an antiquarian book store there called Booked Up that sounded pretty unique. Jill and Eric collect and I have a few rarities on my shelf too, so off we went.

The road and the fences and the cattle all ripped by fast enough that saying “look at the…” was often pointless. You couldn’t rely on someone else paying attention for you on that drive. It was less than 30 degrees and bone dry when we left – one of those bright blue days of winter. That’s the perfect kind of weather to make a powerful engine work even harder. As I gave the car a workout the smoothness, the passing power and the cornering let me effortlessly push it to achieve what it was designed for. Joy. As I mentioned in my post Upgrading Everything a while back, this car is a superb example of just how far a dollar can go these days.

I can’t be certain if my passengers were just being good sports or if they enjoyed it too, but I had given them ample warning of what they were in for previously and they made no protests. If “enjoy the journey” is something to live by, I certainly gave it a shot.

Yes James, it is Very Cold

My friend over at the arc of time took notice of my new blog today. He also made a post regarding his continued commitment to public transportation despite the extreme (for Atlanta) cold. You are a dedicated man, James. Me? I’d be far less intrepid. But then I haven’t run any marathons either.